During a recent coaching session, one of my clients confessed to feeling so overwhelmed by everything on her plate.
The roles of being a mother, wife, friend, and volunteer were taking so much of her time. There were too many projects to complete, a household to manage, and a deep desire to follow her own passions and claim time for self-care.
At that moment the concept of "kairos" popped up in my mind.
"Chronos is clocks, deadlines, watches, calendars, agendas, planners, schedules, beepers. Chronos is time at her worst. Chronos keeps track. ...Chronos is the world's time. Kairos is transcendence, infinity, reverence, joy, passion, love, the Sacred. Kairos is intimacy with the Real. Kairos is time at her best. ...Kairos is Spirit's time. We exist in chronos. We long for kairos. That's our duality. Chronos requires speed so that it won't be wasted. Kairos requires space so that it might be savored. We do in chronos. In kairos we're allowed to be ... It takes only a moment to cross over from chronos into kairos, but it does take a moment. All that kairos asks is our willingness to stop running long enough to hear the music of the spheres."
In Greek mythology, both Chronos and Kairos are gods with wings reminding us that "time flies". They were often portrayed with long hair growing on their faces, but with bald heads. It was said that if you saw Kairos coming toward you, you could grab him by the hair as he came closer, but once he moved passed you, there was nothing to grab since his head was bare. A missed "opportune" moment.
3 Steps To Make Time for What Matters Most During the Holidays
At this time of year we feel the tension between chronos and kairos at its peak. There is so much to do, and yet we long for space to be connected in joy and appreciation with those we love.
Now I realize this is really just capturing "kairos moments". They don't have to be big events like moving to a new house, having a baby or graduating high school. Kodak/Kairos moments can be captured at any time. Here a a few examples:
- When you are getting the kids ready for school, take a moment to give them a big hug and plant this memory in your heart. Remember how they smell...how far you can wrap your arms around their big or little bodies...how they giggle or maybe wake up in a bad mood.
- When you are out with a friend, take time to zoom back and imagine this as a Kodak moment. Take in the environment, the colors, the scents, the atmosphere, your friend's laughter. Notice how you feel and what your friendship means to you.
- When you are busy rushing around buying gifts and standing at the check out counter, look at the gifts and imagine the delight the receiver will have upon opening them. As you pay for them, bless the money being exchanged and whisper a prayer of gratitude that you have the means to delight others with gifts.
3. Reflecting and celebrating how you showed up as who you want to BE
During this busy holiday season, may these tips help you capture your "Kodak/Kairos" moments so you'll have an album of beautiful moments to celebrate.